When you meet the "RIGHT" person everything fits into place. It's easy, no struggle, and you compliment one  another.
 Although it's nice to meet someone who shares the same interests and hobbies as you , just think for a moment how wonderful it is to meet someone who broadens your horizons and introduces you to new and exciting things.
The ideal person is not someone who puts up with your faults, rather they are blind and ignorant to them and only see your qualities and beauty. When you meet the right person you will know it. They will make everything seem so much more wonderful and interesting. You will do things together you had wanted to do for so long, or had been meaning to do but just didn't want to do on your own. Everything takes on a new meaning. All it takes is a step in the right direction, an action and a goal.

While it is important to learn from our past mistakes it is equally as important to be able to leave the past behind and start again with new hope and belief. No one goes through life without some degree of heartache and pain. It's how we deal with these memories and experiences that determine our future. We obviously don't want to repeat past mistakes but sometimes we are experiencing the same things over and over again. These are called recurring patterns. It often seems like we have no control over these events ....but in fact we do. Dealing with past hurts and disappointments helps us to grow emotionally and paves the way for new experiences. We are clearer about what we don't want and even knowing that helps to form a clearer picture of what is right for us in the future. Fear sometimes prevents us from allowing new experiences in, fear of hurt or failure, all fear block off the things we want most....a new and rewarding relationship. Knowing when we're ready is important, and ideally a positive outlook with lots of enthusiasm ......and who knows. 

IT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY.
Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone.
Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather
  55% is through body language
  38% is the tone and speed of their voice
  Only 7% is through what they say 

SOMEONE

What is it about certain songs that instantly transform us into misty eyed puddles of melancholy? Scientists have proven that emotionally intense music, whether happy or sad, releases dopamine into the pleasure/reward centres of our brain. It's a type of benign addiction. Paradoxically, the sadder the song the more we crave it. We've all been there. British psychologist John Scolba in a famous study in the 1090's found that the majority of music contained a music device known as an "appoggiatura". Adele's Someone Like You is dripping with appoggiaturas. Put several appoggiaturas together into a three minute pop song and you're into     "Oh God I'm tearing up"....territory. Adele and Dan Wilson co wrote Someone Like You about a desperately heartbreaking end of a relationship. Adele was feeling really sad at the time and it was a case of walking her back through the experience. When we hear the song we walk in her shoes.Yes, there may be appoggiaturas, volume shifts, expansion frequencies and tension/release dynamics to play with. But what Adele really does on  Someone Like You is to sing her heart out....honestly and painfully.

Often we are operating from our past- past hurts and experiences. In order to attract new and fulfilling relationships into our life we must first let go of the past, cast off old habits and resentments and adopt an attitude of positivity and belief in a better future.
When you meet someone for the first time try to look at them through new eyes, see them as they really are. Listen attentively, look closely, pay attention to everything and you will find that you will enjoy the experience more, and really get to know the person. Most of the time we are watching for patterns or signals that we recognise from our past, which in turn closes doors and puts up barriers to new opportunities and relationships. The most important thing to remember is that this is a new experience, a new person and possibly the start of something beautiful and exciting.

When just starting out on a new journey,  it's only natural to feel vulnerable. After all, it may seem that you have much to lose. But may I remind you that never again, at any other point in your journey, will you have so much to gain as you will if you start today? 

Have a look at the My Job section in this Friday's Examiner newspaper. John Daly interviewed me (Jennifer ) for the article. Hope you like it.

Hope you all saw Twos Company mentioned in the Irish Times price watch column in yesterdays paper.